Ending Bad Relationships
We often speak about it with our closest of friends and family and often contemplate if we are “being too harsh”. Ending bad relationships is a tough job but let’s face it; rather to end it than stay involved in something that just isn’t nurturing and true friendship doesn’t exist. There are many different aspects of healthy relationships but the first that normally comes to mind is emotions. Emotionally, you should feel good about whatever relationship you are engaged in; whether friendship, dating, and even marriage. When you feel bad or too emotionally challenged by a relationship it may just be time to sit down and re-think things through.
Thinking things through doesn’t necessarily mean to call it quits or to run to counseling. It can simply be getting some alone time to think things through and to become aware of the person you are or are not in the relationship. It too can mean having a good old fashion sit down and letting the other party know how you feel about things. Be careful because this approach has both positive and negatives that go along with it. You may not be in the mood to hear that you have done some wrong doing yourself or that the feeling is completely mutual. This is where characteristics such as being a great listener, compassionate and respectful will definitely come into play. When those three coincide normal, long lasting, and nurturing relationships flourish and eventually love for the person you are in the relationship with. I will be the first to admit that when I am not listened to it normally doesn’t bother me until it becomes apparent that the other party may have a controlling nature and that my self control just doesn’t pair well with that. I will be the first to steer shy of any one, place, or thing that can cause me to compromise my character. The list could be longer, but I am not that picky cause I too have my fair share of issues that I have learned not to impose on others. I live by the golden rule scripture, ”Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.” Whether it is speaking, a glance, or how we deal and handle information passed through the vine I use this as a guide to my everyday.
If you have to end the bad relationship, do it swiftly and clearly. If you still wish to remain in contact then you should clearly state the terms and be certain to think of the other person’s feelings. It’s always about leaving how you entered; quietly and respectfully!
Live Well
Total wellness is essential to life. Where there is lack of proper health, body maintenance, and spirituality the end result is a poor diet, disease and other health concerns that otherwise may be easily be avoided. At other times the end result is death. Experts believe that the body, mind and spirit are interconnected and when you have poor health in one element there will exist the same in the other(s). It is for this reason that you should inform your doctor during your visit the true and complete status of your spiritual, mental and physical health.
I didn’t always know myself how one aided the other until a car accident forced me to put my overall health into perspective. The accident resulted in back injury and lost the feeling in one of my legs. There were times when I couldn’t even climb out of bed without being helped. After ongoing years of prayer, Chiropractic, education, extensive therapy, and changes to my diet I am more balanced. In addition to the above I had to let go of most sugars. By cutting out most of the sugar in my diet I’ve increased both my mental and physical strength, ability to sleep, awareness, brain function and the list goes on.
Laugh of the Day: Human Bed Warmers?
Laugh of the Day
Would you be willing to let a stranger climb into your bed and warm it up for you? Well, at Holiday Inn in London you can do just that! Strange, you might say but seemingly reasonable to some! According to the Fox29 News the Londoners have been going out of there way for years to accommodate their guest.
Lets just say, I will not be cold anytime soon. I just can’t imagine someone touching my newly pressed linens before I do, or having to enter a room and find someone already in my bed!
In the Spotlight: Mirage Planning
Mirage Planning of Coatesville, Pennsylvania offers event planning services in addition to group travel planning. Mirage, started by President Mary Kyle in 2002 and serves the Tri-State area. Mary has been organizing social events and group travel for the past 15 years with an emphasis on island vacations. Mary has traveled groups ranging in size from 10-200 people of all ages to a variety of destinations, including the Bahamas, Cancun, Atlanta and New Orleans. Mary likes to “think outside the box” in her planning and enjoys arranging theme parties and specialty day trips (spa, shopping, theatre, etc.). She also enjoys designing customized bookmarks.
Visit Mirage Planning for your event planning needs today.
Be the Change!
Last week, Haiti once known as the Pearl of the Caribbean now known to the world as the poorest country in the Western Hemisphere was devastated by a Earthquake. Thousands upon thousands lost their life, home, and quality of life as they knew it. I urge Phenomenally Us readers and followers to take a moment to bow their head in prayer and pray for the survivors of the quake and all humanity. Just months ago, I had a writer and her family suffering the devestation left by a typhoon, and prior a developer whose country of Pakistan and neighboring India was hit by an earthquake and other unimaginable violence. So, it is with great saddness that I write this post.
A few days following the quake, I posted on my Facebook a post urging my small group compiled of 40 family and close friends to each donate as little as 5USD to Yele Haiti; a Grassroots organization founded by Artist Wyclef Jean. I figured that if I had 40 multiplied by $5 each that was $200 in addition to my $5 contribution. $205 raised just like that! Amazing isn’t it? Most contributed using Yele and others to the links provided to The Red Cross. I was as overjoyed, as I was saddened that it took such an act of devastation to urge others to act. For years, my husband born in Haiti spoke to family and friends regarding the beauty his country possessed and how rich with greatness it really was and his plan to one day return. This current event has changed the face of Haiti as many knew and remembered it. With the collapse of the Presidential Palace, schools, popular markets, hospitals, churches, and hotels we all must aid in Haiti’s revitalization and forward progress in any way we can. It is up to every person to aid in the forward progress of not only Haiti but humanity itself. Lets use this as a wake up call. A call to
“Be the change.”
To donate visit any one of the links below or others you know. Only donate to an organization you know and trust. CNN is also providing a list of organizations. You can find them here.
http://doctorswithoutborders.org/
Using PayPal to donate? http://www.mercycorps.org/
Help Haiti by Simply Signing a Petition!
http://www.one.org/blog/2010/01/18/take-action-cancel-haitis-890-world-debt/
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So What I Have a Big Booty!
Yes, I said it! And, for the first time have acknowledged that I have what some refer to as a big ol’ butt, nice butt, onion, roundness…you name it. For years now I have tried to avoid the fact that my body started changing in ways I could no longer control after giving birth to my third child. Even when I was thin I was nicely curved but never imagined that my hips would continue to widen and my derriere would protrude so far from my back. Family and friends for years told me to “accept it, embrace it, be proud of it!” I just couldn’t. My complex became worse and as time progressed I would often find myself trying to hide it under coats, long shirts, and loose dresses. I avoided jeans for years, tights were definitely out of the question the second I was no longer thin. I just couldn’t grasp that I commanded attention and “validation” I didn’t invite, want or need! I started to place the blame on a society that thrives off evaluating looks based on the hottest trends, and what women and parts are considered HOT and how they must look to fit the title of beauty.
Beyonce, Jennifer Lopez, and Serena Williams are just a few of the names you hear when someone is speaking about the posterior. Never do they neglect to use the word large when referring to those three. Why is it we even have to speak about it? Why are we living in a country where some women are seeking bragging rights for their posterior blessing anyhow? Can a woman walk down the street in any outfit she would like and not go through the cat calls or the branding regardless of the size of her bottom? I don’t know about you, but I for one have personally had it! I know! I am aware now and, SO WHAT I HAVE A BIG BUTT Come on people, how would you cope in another country where that is all you see all day long? Would every word out of your mouth be followed by butt even then?
Am I wrong for believing I am beautiful regardless of my body and anything outward should only be considered an enhancement to my inner strength and beauty? Am I silly or exaggerating by pointing out that I don’t need your attention nor am I trying to get it by down playing the topic at hand? I was prompted to write this article only after reading that Solange Magnano the former Miss Argentina died a week ago from complications three days after receiving Gluteoplasty! Lets think of all the little girls out there contimplating and seeking both natural and prosthetics to enhance their posterior because of the example(s) being set by adults? Okay, you like a nice behind, “Keep it to yourself! Not every butt is looking for a pairing with the one that loves a big butt. So what!”
Happy December! Become an OFA Volunteer
Tis the Season and Phenomenally Us would like to personally invite you to volunteer with Orphan Foundation of America (OFA) today!
Being a VMentor has personally changed my life over that last two years! I really don’t plan on ending what I believe is more than a commitment but a true privilege to be a part of. As a Mentor I communicate with my Mentee as often as two or more times per week! I can’t give you specifics but what I can say is that I never am bored with conversation and often find myself learning as much as I contribute! There are times, I would love to just drive to her and give her a hug and this is how I can. By corresponding, participating in training and other areas of OFA I am able to see first hand what a difference is being made through involvement.
“OFA’s vMentoring program is unique in that it enables busy professionals to volunteer on their own schedule. Through a secure internet portal, mentors communicate with their mentees at any time around the clock. The time requirement is typically an hour per week.” ~ OFA
The VMentor program is just one way you can give to foster youth. Although closed for applications at this time there are several other programs and opportunities to provide the much needed assistance. Choose one or all from the list below or visit the site for additional opportunities and help share in the lives of others by making a difference and spreading the much needed comfort, hope and success that everyone is entitled to.
The Care Package Program accepts donations of gift cards, food, school supplies, toiletries, electronics, and things a college student would adore.
Provide a Scholarship. OFA awards over 15 million for foster youth to attend specialized programs and college. All scholarships provided by OFA are through individuals, foundations and corporations. The scholarship program receives no monies via the government.
Offer an Internship. Your business can provide the opportunity to gain the valuable development and hands on experience a budding young student and future professional needs to succeed.
Donate your skills. You can donate your talent to OFA. Teachers, IT Professionals, Fundraisers and grant writers are just a few of the skills sought by OFA.
Crochet or knit a scarf! The Red Scarf Project accepts donations from September 1, 2009 through December 15, 2009. For guidelines and where to send click the link above or visit http://orphan.org/index.php?id=40.
OFA defines an orphan as
“any child who has lost the love of their parents through death, abandonment, abuse, or neglect.”
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